Dads matter too.

This weekend my husband and I went to Ikea to wander around. Apparently there was a lot of other people who had that idea as well. Maybe it’s the lure of Ikea’s Swedish meatballs that draws people in. Or maybe it’s their bright colors and fun gadgets that do the trick. Or maybe it’s the […]

No soul mate for me, thank you.

I have a confession to make…my husband isn’t my soul mate. When we first met my cheeks didn’t flush, my heart rate remained steady and my feet stayed on the ground. There wasn’t an instant spark or a heated connection. I knew my husband back then as Jason Ray. For those of you that know […]

How my daughter changed me.

June 21st, 2012 at 5:32 P.M., Aliya Marie Ray came into our lives. She weighed 6lbs 11oz and was 19.5 inches long. Due to a rare gestational disease I was diagnosed with, Intrahepatic Cholestasis, she was born via C-section three weeks early. This C-section, unlike my first one, went without a hitch. After they prepped […]

Friendships after children: Why we lose some and why we win some.

Not too long ago I had a falling out with a best friend. The argument itself wasn’t a shocker, over the course of our 22 year friendship we’ve had many, but this one was different. For me there was one sentence that was the catalyst in the shift of our friendship. I received an email […]

Dear Dad, Wherever you are…

Dear Dad, I know we’ve never met. We’ve never hugged, argued or laughed together. You’ve never checked under my bed for monsters, kissed my forehead or bandaged a boo-boo. You’ve never scolded me for being bad or taught me right from wrong, you’ve never walked me down the aisle. You never read me a book […]

My Husband’s Ex-Wife

Most people will read that and gag. Most people will read that and get angry. Most people will read that and cry. This is one of those times I’m glad I’m not most people. My husband, Jason, jokingly refers to his ex as my BFF. I guess in some ways that’s not too far from […]

You have how many kids?

You have how many kids? Yes, you heard me correctly, six. Five boys and a beautiful baby girl. My husband has four boys from a previous marriage and I have a boy from a previous marriage. When Jason and I got married we rolled the dice and decided to have one of our own. God […]